Check Yourselves Before You Wed Yourselves: A Wedding Self-Checklist!

Trekkies in Powder Blue Tuxes

What do powder-blue tuxedos, puffy-sleeved bridesmaid dresses, and Star Trek themed weddings have in common? Someone thought they were great ideas. Seriously.  And just think, those very same people are going to offer you advice about your upcoming wedding!


Everyone’s got an Opinion….Like Everyone!

Indeed, it seems that when it comes to weddings, everyone has copious amounts of unsolicited advice: Your manicurist, the checkout girl at Whole Foods, your barista…we mean everyone. Don’t get me wrong, it’s nice that people are excited for your big day, but it can get overwhelming when everyone in your life is telling you what you “need to do” for your perfect wedding.


Drive-Through Nuptials Not Necessary

Well-meaning advice from family (close and distant) and friends along with the overwhelming number of “wedding advice” articles and websites on the internet can make you seriously consider eloping. So before you get to the point of throwing out the wedding dress and opting for sweatpants, a trip to Las Vegas and drive through nuptials, please read the following “non-advice” article!


Peacocks and Pigeons 

There’s an old Chinese proverb that warns, “trying to copy someone else’s style is like putting peacock feathers on a pigeon.” As you plan your wedding, make sure that you and your fiancé decide on a celebration that fits your style and personality–it’s always best to develop your own, rather than copy someone else’s.


Chuck “Their” Checklists    

If you google “wedding checklists,” you’ll find that they’re exhaustive and not applicable to half of couples. Rather than make yourself anxious, put down the MacBook, get some snacks, sit down with your fiancé and do a little soul searching to create a list of your own.

Self Generated Checklist 

Don’t worry about what you don’t know about planning a wedding at this stage. Trust that you know what you like, and start from there. Remember, it’s your day and it should reflect who you are and what you like. Here is a simple self-generated checklist of the “must haves.” Remember, keep it simple…you can always complicate it later

  1. Theme

These days weddings don’t have to be strictly traditional. Before you start planning the outfits for your wedding party, you’ll want to decide whether you want a traditional, costume, or casual wedding. Go with what fits your lifestyle!

  1. Time of Year

Not all weddings have to occur in the summer! Springtime in Paris? Autumn in New York? Whistler Winter Wonderland? Every season is romantic–and the off seasons can be easier on the wallet!

  1. The Ceremony

Depending on your religious or spiritual inclinations, you’ll want to decide if you’ll want a religious (ie Church, Mosque, Synagogue) or Civil Wedding.

  1. The Reception

This one can be tricky. Do you want a public or private reception? Remember, you can’t please everyone, so do what is right for you. It’s okay if your Dad’s bowling buddies or your Mom’s third cousin aren’t invited to the reception.

  1. Guest Count

This is another area that takes some serious thought! Large weddings can be a lot of fun, but will increase the budget, while smaller weddings can be intimate and lovely too! What have you envisioned over the years?

  1. Food

Let’s face it, food is one of the most important aspects of any wedding! How do you want to feed your guests? Buffet? Plated? Family-Style? Cocktail Party? High Tea? There is no right or wrong option, as long as people are fed on time!

You Do You.

Remember that there is no right or wrong when planning a wedding, as long as you do you! Be true to who you are and what you love–even if that means a Dungeons and Dragons themed wedding or canary yellow bridesmaids dresses (we don’t recommend it)!

In the end if you find yourself stuck and in need of a little guidance we do recommend the checklist at weddingwire as it can be tailored to your exact requirements. Also, there’s great resource at Imanscape called The Grooms Guide to Weddings for more detailed info.

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